This position paper is written by four key researchers from two projects (one in Norway and one in Sweden) aiming to define and discuss terms and concepts in Gender Studies. It is inspired by the concept of dialogue as a method of academic writing and discusses the methods, results, challenges, and choices made in the two projects. While they both aimed to create and discuss a vocabulary for Gender Studies and gender research, the projects took shape from different approaches, and produced different results. In this position paper, we want to discuss the meaning of doing conceptual work and deciding on definitions of terms. Our aim is not to determine which approach is “better”, but rather to understand how the field of Gender Studies and gender research is being built.