The growing online communication that takes place between young people today causes concern. The purpose of this study, which is a part of my thesis, is to develop in – depth knowledge of the interaction that young people engage in online. The pedagogic interest is based on an investigation of conditions for social learning and social integration that exist in practice, which unfolds in virtual spaces created by social media. The theoretical point of departure is based on a pedagogic theory, which proposes that people develop their ability to cooperate, their social identity, and their understanding of the world through interaction with others. This study is conducted for the purpose of revealing discursive patterns in young people’s argumentation, based on a series of interviews of 32 respondents, aged 14-15 years old. The result shows that in young people’s online interaction, there are pendulum–like alternations between their desire for attention and their sense of vulnerability. The enjoyment ofa safe and secure social membership is of great importance and thesocial practice that develops in their interaction with their closest friends is characterized by certain qualities.Reciprocity andrespect are overarching values in these relationships. In interactions with friends who are not members ofa close inner circle, asymmetry and control are meaningful elements. Young people are sensitive to this, discern such differences, and act in goal–directed ways with the aimof benefiting their own interests. The result also shows that strong disciplinary forces also are present. Construction of gender is one aspect of this discipline, but it’s also conditioned by group membership and the status that it associated with that membership. The danger of reprisals increases if the norm system is violated. Young people are engaged in a balancing act between ideal behaviour and the risk of being offended. They act according to their social position and the expectations associated with sucha social position.