This article proposes that a sociology of friendship may be used to explain the state of the evangelical church under postmodern conditions. Earlier studies on friendship have been coupled with a number of qualitative interviews made with members of three local congregations in Sweden. The findings include that a variety of friendships are developed and maintained in church. These, however, need to be coupled with other friendships in order to make church life meaningful. The most important parameter in this effort is that of sameness and diversity.